4 Items You Shouldn’t Keep After a Loved One Pa.ss.es Away

When we lose someone dear to us, it’s natural to want to hold on to something—an item of clothing, a pair of shoes, a personal belonging. These tangible items become emotional anchors, tokens of connection to the person we’ve lost.

But while they may offer comfort, certain objects can quietly hinder the grieving process. What if releasing them could be another meaningful way to honor our loved ones?

Here are four types of keepsakes that might be better left behind—or thoughtfully transformed—rather than preserved or passed on.

1. Clothing: When Fabric Becomes a Time Capsule

A jacket hanging in the closet, a scarf still carrying their scent—clothing is often the first thing we hold on to after a loss. It brings the comforting illusion that they’re still nearby, that we might turn a corner and see them again.

But this illusion can become a barrier. Holding on to their clothes untouched can keep us rooted in the past, making it harder to come to terms with their absence. For younger generations, inheriting these clothes can feel more like an emotional weight than a cherished gift.

Instead, consider repurposing a piece of clothing into something symbolic—a pillow, a small pouch—or donating it to someone in need. Letting go can be an act of generosity and healing.