Three “C”s that destr0y a woman in marriage

On my blog, I often check an image that shows the theme of the reverse evolution of women in marriage. These words, attributed to the villain Cruella, sound like an alert: marriage has damaged more women than famine and natural disasters. Obviously, the authors depicts this image to highlight the character’s cruelty, but in reality, these words have become a guideline for many who deal with or fear suffering in unhappy marriages.

I have two opinions about such statements. On the one hand, many women suffer from similar problems in marriage. On the other hand, I don’t think it’s right to reallocate responsibility to extract concepts or phenomena. In my opinion, what ruins a woman is not the fact of marriage itself, but certain aspects of it that can be applied against her.

1. Criticism

While healthy feedback is crucial in any relationship, constant criticism is not.
When a woman is repeatedly blamed — for how she dresses, cooks, speaks, or even how she parents — it affects her confidence. It’s especially painful when the criticism comes from someone she predicts unconditional support from.

Over time, what may have began as occasional remarks can feel like an ongoing atta.ck on her identity. She may start to question her worth, silence her voice, and withdraw emotionally — not because she doesn’t care, but because she no longer feels safe expressing herself.

What to do instead: Constructive communication should originate from a place of love, not judgment. Focus on “I” statements (“I feel hurt when…”), and highlight positive qualities just as often as you point out concerns.